When a friend's child has been diagnosed with cancer, it's a challenging and upsetting time for everyone involved. The family needs the support of people around them, but it can be hard to know what to say or do. Here are some ways you can support them on the journey ahead.
Be there to listen
Your friend will likely be feeling overwhelmed, upset and in shock. Sometimes, they just need someone to listen. You don't need to have all the answers or offer advice - just being there and empathising with them can make all the difference. Give them your full attention and as much time as they need. They may not want to talk about it and that's fine too. Make it clear that if and when they are ready, you will be there for them.
Offer practical support
Receiving a diagnosis turns life upside down for families. Your friend might need to stop working and they might spend a lot of time in hospital. It can be an incredibly stressful time but you can help make things a little easier by taking care of errands, helping with housework, or babysitting siblings. Be specific when offering help - minimising the time they need to spend thinking about other things allows them to focus on their child.
Keep in touch
Dealing with childhood cancer can be lonely, but knowing someone cares can make all the difference. Your friend might not always have the energy to reach out for support so make sure you're keeping in touch through calls, messages, or visits. Take the pressure off by letting them know you don't expect a response but you're thinking about them.
Respect their privacy
There may be lots of ups and downs along a childhood cancer journey and every family will cope differently. They may feel overwhelmed with the thought of keeping friends and family up to date with their situation. Respect their boundaries and don't push for more information than they are willing to share. Don't share information with others unless your friend has said it's ok.
Be there for the long haul
Treatment can be a long process. Your friend might get a lot of support in the early days but maintaining long-term support is most important. Let your friend know that you are there for them as long as it takes. Check in regularly throughout their journey and continue to listen and offer practical support. Be flexible and patient, adapting to their needs throughout their journey.
Supporting a friend whose child has cancer requires patience, compassion and understanding. By being there for them throughout their journey, you can help them to feel less isolated and make their life a little bit easier during an incredibly difficult time.